Hello🌻
I have two teenage children (actually one is not quite but almost a teenager), and communicating with them can be a real challenge. They are moody & grumpy💢 It is so annoying, really.
I don’t know how a wise mother deal with this problem, but for me food & massage can be a real saviour😉 There are some dishes that my children really love so that can get them to smile. The only problem is that I can’t keep feeding them the same thing or I don’t always have the time to cook.
What alway woks is giving them a massage though☀️ Just a simple 5 minutes head or hand massage or even foot massage as long as they had a good bath & don’t smell. I love getting a massage myself, so I started giving my children a quick massage once in a while when they were about 9-10 years old. I call it a massage, but it basically is just rubbing with a bit of pressure, nothing professional.
My children love it💖 On average, I give them a massage once a week. I offer it to them right before they go to bed. They always always say “yes!” to that no matter how grumpy or tired they are, and it is such a great way to communicate with them. We sometimes talk or we don’t but it really doesn’t matter. I can tell that they are so relaxed and happy by the end of it.
I’m so glad that I started doing it when they are a bit younger so that they don’t feel weird about their mum touching their head, feet etc. It is quite natural for them. It is great especially for my daughter as her study pressure has increased this year, and I feel like I have a tool to help her rather than to annoy her all the time💦 I’m not sure if my son will still let me touch his head in 1-2 years time, but I intend to keep going as long as he is happy.
Trying have a conversation with a teenager is hard, so don’t bother, just give them a quick massage🌈 They might give you a smile at the end.
My happy samurai life in London💫
Hinata